Thursday, October 31, 2013

Overcoming my roadblocks

To ever be successful at something, I believe two of the roadblocks you have to over come are:

-fear of failing
-fear of what others might think

I truly believe that amazing things will start to blossom in your life when you overcome these two things!

I finally stopped listening to my sorry excuses and all the reasons "why I shouldn't" and made a new Instagram account to help keep me motivated with eating clean and eventually loosing the baby weight. Yesterday I posted on my personal insta account about this new project I started for those of my family and friends who might be interested. After I had posted about it I thought to myself, "OH MY GOODNESS! WHAT. DID. I. JUST. DO?!" I felt so vulnerable to the opinions and critiques of my peers and thoughts of potential failure ran through my mind. I had a mini panick attack! Lol. Good news -I'm feeling much better this morning. I reminded mysellf that I'm doing this for me and for those who are interested. Any haters can just kiss my arse! Lol anyways, I'm excited to see what my future holds. 

Follow me @thehavenlydose if you're interested in jumping on the healthy bandwagon too!


Sunday, October 27, 2013

My Little Masters of Change


I just love these little boys to death! This was them last night at Rancho ward's trunk-or-treat . Anyways, on a totally different note...being a mother I'm constantly thinking of all the many different things I want to teach and impress upon my kids as they grow up so that they will eventually grow into functional, good, happy members of society. One of the things I was thinking about this past week was bullying. While growing up at one point or another my husband and I had both been bullied. (I'm sure it's something that everyone has unpleasantly experienced.) It would be so heartbreaking to ever hear about any of my kids getting bullied and even more horrifying if I ever found out they were a bully. I've often thought about how I would deal with it if my kids found themselves in either position (and obviously we would assume our kids would or could never be "that" kid, "the bully", but we don't live in a perfect world and our kids aren't perfect.) The wearing of pink shirts and passing of anti-bullying bylaws have been in recent news. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about the anti-bullying movement but is that really enough? There is no way we will ever completely eliminate bullying just like this world will never completely have world peace (in this life at least) -simply due to the fact that there is opposition in all things. As my kids grow up and eventually go through school and come in contact with many more different people and build new relationships, they WILL in some way become hurt by others intentionally. As they learn and grow I want to teach and help them to have great inner confidence that no insecure bully can break and also how to cope/deal with "mean" people instead of "playing victim." For me, it's crucial that my kids know and understand how to be MASTERS OF CHANGE for them selves and for society, rather than play victim. I won't always physically be by their side 24/7 but my husband and I can help them gain the ability to stand up for themselves. And of course, we will teach them to be kind, charitable, tolerant individuals to hopefully insure that they will never be found on the "bully side". Parenting isn't easy but this issue is one of the many things I hope to be found successful in as I continue to teach my kids each day.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Simple day

Before this day ends I just wanted to write a quick post. Nothing amazing or spectacular happened today but I just want the simplicity of it to be remembered.

I woke up this morning next to my Safi boy. He was still dreaming away and it was early in the morning so I decided to do some personal goal setting. Then I did some scripture reading. Not too long after that Niko woke up so I went and picked him up from his crib, layed him down in my bed, and gave him a bottle while I relaxed next to him. It felt nice to wake up in the morning and not be rushed or having any other responsibilities that I had to get ready for right away. I sent my husband a quick text thanking him for always working so hard for us, especially so I could stay home full time to raise our kids. One thing my husband is NOT is lazy. He always works hard in everything he does and does a thorough job of it. I'm grateful for that. To be honest, some days I do wish I had a career and worked outside the home but today I was just grateful to be exactly where I was at with my two boys. Right after I texted him he called me. He calls me every morning when he gets off with a bright, vibrant, "Hey baby!" or "Good morning Beautiful!" He told me he was on his way home and to send Safi boy outside to the front when he pulled up so he could take him to get donuts (since yesterday Safi boy asked him to take him to get a donut "at the store with a circle on it") Safi boy had just woken up so I told him to get his silipa on because daddy was coming to pick him up. Saf pulled up not long after that and I sent Safi boy out the front door and watched him run to his daddy at the car. It was cute seeing how excited he was to go. They drove off and I sat on the couch feeling grateful that my kids have such a great, loving father. When they got home they enjoyed their donuts on the kitchen table. Of course Saf got my favorite donut, custard-filled, and was trying to convince me to eat it (even after I told him no because I was trying to eat healthy). I indulged myself with a bite...or two. After donuts, Saf went and took a shower and then after came and layed down with Safiboy and I in bed. He told me about work the night before, we laughed at stupid things, and he held me. I always love when he comes home from work at just holds me and kisses my cheek. I feel safe...happy...loved. Niko woke up from his first nap so I brought him in our room to say hi to his daddy. 

Saf then knocked out for the day and Safi boy and I left him in peace. I grabbed some construction paper and Safi boy and I made some jack-o-lanterns while listening to the Disney channel on pandora. He was more into listening to the different Disney songs and figuring out what movie each of them were from than doing crafts. Niko sat in his high chair next to us and watched while he ate strawberries. After we made our jack-o-lanterns we taped them to the family room wall. Before I knew it it was already time for Niko to go down for his second nap so I took him to his crib. For some reason today I was just extra, extra tired (this baby inside me sure is making my body work). I sat on the couch and caught up on some of my shows while Safi boy played on his iPad. Of course I knocked out and caught some sleep while Niko was napping. Sleep feels so goooood these days! When I woke up Saf was up and hungry. We had no food so saimini it was. Yeah, the struggle is real right now. After we ate we walked the kids to the park and Saf watched them while I got a quick workout in over in the soccer field. After I was done with my workout I walked back to my boys and Niko cried for me to carry him. Right now I think it's cute he's such a mama's boy. 

We walked back home and had saimini again for dinner. Saf and I laughed about having this twice in one day. It's been a while since we've had to resort to saimini. We didn't have much but we somehow managed and were still happy. After dinner I put the boys in the bath together. I tried taking a cute, photogenic picture of them but Safiboy wasn't having it. It made me happy seeing them playing together. Niko loves the water. It's one of his newest favorite discoveries so I sat next to the tub and let them both play for about 30 minutes. I took them out and got them both ready for bed. They both knocked out early tonight. It was great! I got a little extra me time. It was finally time for Saf to get back to work again. He was in the room catching a few more hours of sleep when I had to wake him up. He layed on the bed tired while I put on his work socks, like I always do every night. I don't even know how that one got started?? He got dressed and kissed me goodbye at the front door while he walked out.  I love that man. Since the boys were asleep I finished painting a large picture frame. I then checked on Niko like I always do and am now finally calling it a night.

I really don't know what it was about today. I just had such a great feeling of calmness and gratitude while living in the moment. I didn't worry about the things I had to get done or what's going to happen tomorrow, next month, or next year. I simply enjoyed every moment and enjoyed all the simple things life has tooffer. Right now we really don't have a lot, but we are really, truly happy.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

5 years down and an eternity to go

Two weeks ago we celebrate our 5 year anniversary. The week of our anni my brother hooked us up with a beach front hotel down in Huntington Beach. It was a nice little getaway not too far from home. Anyways 2 kids, one miscarriage, one on the way, 1 move, a job promotion, lots of school, many trials and many more happy times later...I've realized how much we've grown as individuals and as a couple. Things aren't always perfecet...we're not perfect but since being married we've helped each other grow and improve for the better. We are "better" because we have each other and as long as we keep "becoming better" together that's all that matters. Not that we're pros at this marriage thing but it take more than an upgraded wedding ring to keep things going strong. Here's a couple pieces of advice that have worked for us:

-stay close to Heavenly Father and the gospel as individuals and you will stay closer as a couple
-forgive and forget (as in don't ever bring it up again)
-love your in laws like your own family
-let the other feel they can be vulnerable with you with out being criticized
-know your spouses "love language" and SPEAK IT! (I know I've mentioned this before on my blog but we swear by it because it works wonders!)
-ENDORSE what you love about the other instead of BASHING what you hate
-do things that keep you falling in love over and over again (we might not be perfect but our marriage is anything but boring)

I'm grateful for my husband. I'm grateful for who I am and who I am becoming because of his love and support. I will always be eternally grateful for the day that I was sealed to him for time and all eternity. I can't wait to see where the rest of life takes us....because the BEST IS YET TO COME. 

(The morning of I surprised Saf and did a mini paint job on the car before we started our day)